she didnt want to quit her job and try and raise a baby alone. Does the Senate have to hold hearings and a vote on President Obama’s nomination of Judge Merrick Garland to the U.S. Supreme Court? Fortunately, my experience was positive all the way around and I proudly acknowledge four parents and four branches of my family tree. While there are many adoption stories as Phil Donahue notes this story does stand alone in how it played out. A poignant account of one woman's heartbreaking decision to give her baby up for adoption. As marriages and friendships are put to the test, will these tight-knit couples have the love and strength needed to thrive? “To Have And Not To Hold” is a song recorded by Madonna for her seventh studio album Ray Of Light. I definitely wish this book had been around in the mid/late 1990s. The Constitution says that … I could relate to her feelings and/or wish I would have been brave or bold enough to ask for contact. 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I highly recommend this book. A story that stands as an example of what can accomplish if we open our hearts and practice empathy toward those who enter our lives. When Lorri Antosz Benson, a 24-year-old successful producer for a groundbreaking national television show, finds herself in an impossible situation, she digs deep and faces the heartbreaking reality that the best choice for her beloved new baby is to be raised by someone else. It captures many different family dynamics and the sacrifices that people sometimes make for those that they love. Also it is a well written book that will make you laugh and cry and will renew your spirit. It ends on a slightly saccharine note because everything magically falls into such a healthy place, but you forgive that because it was mostly a very compelling story. This book is honest, real and shares the often-overlooked perspective of what it’s like to make the courageous decision to put your child up for adoption. As an adoptee who eventually met and built relationships with my birth family, I am very much interested in books about the adoption experience. Lorri Benson tells her story with heart. I highly recommend this book!!! she was in her 20's with a good job. Directed by Monika Mitchell. It offers hope to those who have traveled similar paths as well as another way to go for young mothers who may be studying options in their own journey. While there are many adoption stories as Phil Donahue notes this story does stand alone in how it played out. A must-read for inspiration in world that is too-often disconnected. It is sad at times and uplifting at others. I'm not sure I could ever be that loving and open. To Have and Not to Hold is the poignant account of Lorri's momentous decision to give her daughter. I will certainly be sharing this with my family book club. 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